Add 3 cups of water to 3 heaped tablespoon of tamarind paste and mix well
In a pan add 1 teaspoon of sesame oil and add fenugreek seeds, pepper, coriander seeds, red chilli, and fennel seeds, saute till they turn aromatic and slightly change color
Add cumin seeds, onion, and tomato and saute till tomato turn slightly mushy for about 1 minute
Simmer the stove and add coconut and salt; mix well and turn off the stove
Finally, add chilli powder and mix well
Transfer everything to a plate and let it cool down
Add little water and grind after everything is cool
Add oil to a wide pan. When the oil is hot add 'to temper' ingredients and lets them splutter
Furthermore, add onion and sauté till the onion is translucent
Add tomato and ladies finger and saute well
Furthermore, add turmeric powder and a little salt and cook till tomatoes turn mushy and ladies finger stickiness is gone
Add tamarind water and boil for 10 minutes
Furthermore, add 1 cup of water and boil for 5 minutes
Add the ground paste and little water; cook for 10 minutes
Add jaggery and 1 teaspoon sesame oil and cook for 10 more minutes