Soak the ingredients under "for grinding" with little water for 15 - 20 minutes. Grind them with coconut and little soaked water for fine grinding
In a utensil add curd, Turmeric powder, asafoetida, salt and whisk well
Heat 1 tablespoon oil in the pan when oil is hot add the ladies finger and sauté till okra change color slightly and shrinks a bit
Add the ground paste to the curd and mix well
Add Cooked ladies finger and mix well
Cook the kuzhambu for 5 minutes in low flame till the kuzhambu starts bubbling up; switch off
Add oil to the pan When the oil is hot, add mustard seeds, curry leaves and fenugreek. Once it splutters, add it to the kuzhambu